Oh, the pressure! We want to change, but it is just so hard. There is so much thinking, thinking, thinking, and then contemplating and then stalling and don’t forget self-sabotaging. I’ll start my diet tomorrow so I must eat all the chocolate in the house today (as if you couldn’t go to the store and buy more). I was listening to an Oprah and Deepak Chopra meditation in which Oprah quoted a friend saying, “May pain knock on my door and not leave until I get the message”. That’s a strong person to say that they are willing to invite pain in so it will force a lasting change upon them. This is transcending.
Marianne Williamson, in The Age of Miracles, wrote a beautiful passage about transcending. “Growth can be hard, and laboring a new self very difficult. Growing older just happens; growing wise is something else again. And by a certain point in life, most of us have been hurt. We have been disappointed. We have had dreams die, and find it hard to forgive ourselves and others. The challenge of age is not to skip life’s disappointments but to transcend them. We transcend them by learning the lessons they taught us, however painful, and coming out on the other side prepared to create, with God’s help, a new life”. She follows this with a prayer that I feel is a gift to anyone reading her book and a gift I share with you now:
May my spirit be reborn, that I might be a better person.
I give you my shame over whom I have sometimes been
and my hopes for whom I wish to be. Please receive them both.
May this transcending lead you to a better place. May the pressure that you are placing on yourself to hold onto the old ways dissipate and reveal a beautiful sunrise leading to a new way of life. May this quarantine end only when we have permanently shifted to a better place filled with love and true happiness.
Weekly Voyage to HEAL Tasks
Stretch: Manual Lymphatic drainage of the neck, neck stretches and opening the chest with the foam roller or rolled-up towel.
Exercise: Grab a couple of cans of vegetables and bench press 8 times. Keep your core activated, inhale as you lift your arms up and exhale as they come down. Do this laying down or in standing just make sure that your core is on.
Habitual Change: Drink more water! Water is the source of life and you should be drinking half your body weight in ounces each day. If you are active, you should drink your body weight in ounces each day.
Perspective Enlightenment: I allow this transcending to come with grace.
Godspeed on your Voyage to HEAL