Above all, I choose love. More than proving my point, more than being right, more than anything, I choose love.
This past week, I was put into a situation in which I felt my opinion was asked knowing that the answer would spark a debate. Unfortunately, I did not feel that this would be a peaceful debate as I could hear the passion and intensity in the other’s person’s voice. They were not going to accept any answer that did not coincide with their opinion. I also did not care much about the subject and was not going to start a fight over something that mattered so little to me. Regardless of how much a subject matters to you, getting into a fight with anyone is a waste of breath in my opinion. No one wins in a fight. Fights just end in hurt feelings and wounds. So, rather than defend my position, I just asked the person, “Why are you trying to start a fight with me?” I then declared that I was not going to fight. I respected their opinion, but I refuse to fight especially with someone I love.
Above all, I choose love. This reminded me of one of my favorite poems.
I will not play a tug o’war
I’d rather play at hug o’war
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs
Where everyone giggles
And rolls on the rug.
Where everyone kisses
And everyone grins,
And everyone cuddles.
And everyone wins.
Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein!
May we all win. Start a hug o’ war rather than a tug o’war. I love you. Have a magnificent week.
When you choose to love, hate will never win.
~ Your Inner Guide
Voyage to HEAL Weekly Tasks
Stretch: One of my favorite dynamic stretches is to wrap my arms around myself and rock back and forth as I let myself unwind. Put on your favorite love song, wrap your arms around yourself, and move to the music.
Exercise: Grab a can of food or lightweight in one hand. Activate your core. Reach your arm out to the side and slowly bring your arm across your body and back out to the side. Repeat on the other side going for at least 6-10 repetitions. If the weight is too much, set it down. You can also slide the can along a table or tall counter.
Habitual Change: All this social distancing deprives us of human contact which is needed to keep our spirits lifted. Human contact keeps our immune systems strong. So go hug someone! Hold them, love them, and enjoy the embrace! Take care of your needs to feel love.
Perspective Enlightenment: When confrontation presents itself, choose love. Ask someone why they are trying to fight with you and declare that you will not fight. Even if your blood pressure is rising, choose love. Hug o’war, not a tug o’war.
Journal Option: Who have I most been at odds with recently? How can I choose to love them to end the war between us?
This week’s blog post coincides with week 5 and 6 stretching the chest and neck while offering forgiveness. I encourage you to begin the on-line Voyage to HEAL or purchase the meditation CD to guide you along your Voyage to HEAL.
Godspeed on your Voyage to HEAL